Don't expect him to pay for everything

    For some girls(not all!)there's something very romantic about being"taken out".This is largely because it's the first cousin to being "taken care of",and that can be a very comforting feeling.But it certainly isn't a feeling you need in order to experience real romance.
   Besides,the notion that the man is responsible for paying for everything went out of style a long time ago.Yes,it's true that many men who have jobs often pay for the woman's share of the date when they take them out.But not always.Why should they?Chances are the woman works,too,and may even earn more money than her date.It isn't fair for the woman to expect him to pay for every single time.These days it's common for men and women to share date expenses fifty-fifty unless they're celebrating a special occasion like a birthday or anniversary,in which case one person might want  to treat the other and pay for the whole date.
Like you,the guy you're going out with may have a part time-job or earn pocket money by baby-sitting,or maybe his parents give him an allowance.And he's probably using that money to save for things like a new pair of skates.a CD,a computer game,or even college.
And he may really want to cough up the cash for your dinner or movie ticket or  ride on the roller coaster or whatever,but there's a good chance he just doesn't have it.There's also a good chance that he knows you expect him to pay,but he still can't.Don't hold that against him.
The fact that he can't shouldn't stand in the way of your feelings for him.He obviously likes you a lot.He's asked you out.He wants to be with you alone,to share a meal or a movie and maybe hold your hand.But he's not an adult.He's a teenager-he's still in school and can't have a full time job-and therefore his cash flow is probably limited.
Of course,you might find yourself out with a boy who does pay for you.It could be because he spends his money mainly on his social life.Or maybe his parents gave him some money to spend on the date.That's nice.But that's really all it is.It's actually a nonevent when it comes to romance.Your date is caring for you more when he puts his arm around you when you're shivering in the stands watching a football game on a cold day that he is when paying for your movie ticket.
One last note.There are lots of girls who wouldn't hear of letting someone pay their way on a date.In fact,they might be resentful if their date even offered.They might think,Wait a minute.Don't patronize me!I can pay for myself.I can take care of myself.It's doubtful that a guy who offers to pay is actually trying to put you down.He wants your date to go well just as badly as you do.
But the fact is,money  isn't an indication of caring.If he has it,great.If he doesn't that's fine too.No one can buy love or romance.Don't be disappointed if you have to reach for your wallet or purse.It maybe the only way the two of you can go to the movies together!